When a law preview day invite says guests are welcome... Forum

[kellohitty]

When a law preview day invite says that you and your guests are invited, who are deemed as socially acceptable guests? I normally thought Law Preview days were for students only.

[t-14orbust]

SOs, parents etc(your friend that was down for free booze)

[Hutz_and_Goodman]

Most people either bring their parents or a friend who wants free alcohol and/or the chance to hit on some 0L women.

[kellohitty]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

[muskies970]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

I went on 4 ASW's last year, two with parents two without. They definitely had a different feel, I can explain more if you want my opinion on which is better, but either way should be fine.

However, if a school is offering an overnight stay with current students or with incoming 0L's I would choose that option and go solo, because I think it allows for a more social time, chance to meet people more, and get to have a better idea for the school.

[Quest4Knowledge]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

I went on 4 ASW's last year, two with parents two without. They definitely had a different feel, I can explain more if you want my opinion on which is better, but either way should be fine.

However, if a school is offering an overnight stay with current students or with incoming 0L's I would choose that option and go solo, because I think it allows for a more social time, chance to meet people more, and get to have a better idea for the school.

Would you be able to explain a little more? I'm curious as to how the experiences would differ.

[Nova]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

bringing parents is acceptable

but its really not a good look

[Dingo Starr]

I met a fellow TLS user who brought his grandpa but wouldn't tell me his user name.
PS your grandpa is waaaay more rad than you.

[TigerDude]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

shake off the haters. Live your own life.

[BigZuck]

Good to know. I just thought bringing parents were generally frowned upon.

bringing parents is acceptable

but its really not a good look

Agree with this. Technically acceptable but no upside that I can see. You will be judged/mocked, that's just the reality of the situation. But YOLO, just do you.

[calle_25]

I went to an admitted students event and a few people brought SOs. They all seemed pretty cool and interacted well with everyone. There was a girl there with a parent, and though I don't think anyone frowned upon it (I certainly didn't), I could tell she was super uncomfortable. She was the only one accompanied by a parent. FWIW.

[cron1834]

Is bringing parents generally a K-JD thing? As a nontrad, it didn't even occur to me that people might do this until I read about it on TLS. Like, it would wildly inconvenience all parties if I had to coordinate some shit with the folks!

[Mal Reynolds]

Don't bring your parents to admit days. Cut the cord.

[A. Nony Mouse]

Is bringing parents generally a K-JD thing? As a nontrad, it didn't even occur to me that people might do this until I read about it on TLS. Like, it would wildly inconvenience all parties if I had to coordinate some shit with the folks!

I presume it is? I'm way way non-trad and it didn't occur to me either. (I kept going to ASWs, trying to talk to the people closer to my age, and finding out they were parents. ) I mean, if it makes you happy, go for it, but I admit I'll judge you for it. (Not that there's any reason you should care about what I think!)

I agree that the SOs who attended were all pretty chill - they were generally facing moving to wherever it was for the the SO to go to school, so I can see why they'd want to attend. And they usually just came to social things like receptions - I don't think I saw any of them sitting in on class/tours, which parents usually did.

[BankruptMe]

If I was going T14...i would consider bringing them so they can see how far i have come.

As a fellow 0L...If you are over 25 and bring parents I would judge.

[Lawst]

I went to a few admit days where kids brought parents and the parents asked stupid, stupid questions all day. If you bring your parents, kindly tell them to STFU.

[cron1834]

Is bringing parents generally a K-JD thing? As a nontrad, it didn't even occur to me that people might do this until I read about it on TLS. Like, it would wildly inconvenience all parties if I had to coordinate some shit with the folks!

I presume it is? I'm way way non-trad and it didn't occur to me either. (I kept going to ASWs, trying to talk to the people closer to my age, and finding out they were parents. ) I mean, if it makes you happy, go for it, but I admit I'll judge you for it. (Not that there's any reason you should care about what I think!)

I agree that the SOs who attended were all pretty chill - they were generally facing moving to wherever it was for the the SO to go to school, so I can see why they'd want to attend. And they usually just came to social things like receptions - I don't think I saw any of them sitting in on class/tours, which parents usually did.

[CookieDough]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

[potterdam]

Is bringing parents generally a K-JD thing? As a nontrad, it didn't even occur to me that people might do this until I read about it on TLS. Like, it would wildly inconvenience all parties if I had to coordinate some shit with the folks!

K-JD - I've seen this everywhere but can't find out what it means, what does it stand for?

[Brettanomyces]

Is bringing parents generally a K-JD thing? As a nontrad, it didn't even occur to me that people might do this until I read about it on TLS. Like, it would wildly inconvenience all parties if I had to coordinate some shit with the folks!

K-JD - I've seen this everywhere but can't find out what it means, what does it stand for?

Kindergarten to JD.

No break in between.

[cron1834]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

Checking out the city seems perfectly legit. What I don't understand is why (according to TLS reports) some people are bringing SOs into classrooms, on tours, etc. Um, they're not going to the school? What do they care what Professor Preftige's contracts class is like? Does not compute.

[midwest17]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

Checking out the city seems perfectly legit. What I don't understand is why (according to TLS reports) some people are bringing SOs into classrooms, on tours, etc. Um, they're not going to the school? What do they care what Professor Preftige's contracts class is like? Does not compute.

My SO will be coming with me for visits. I'm not sure if she'll want to sit in on classes and tours, but I would like it if she did. She knows me well, and I trust her opinion in helping me figure out where would be a good fit for me. And when it comes time to talk about where we're going to move to, it will help if she has an idea of what I like and don't like about the schools, just like it will help if I have an idea what she does and doesn't like about the cities.

Communication, bro.

[CookieDough]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

Checking out the city seems perfectly legit. What I don't understand is why (according to TLS reports) some people are bringing SOs into classrooms, on tours, etc. Um, they're not going to the school? What do they care what Professor Preftige's contracts class is like? Does not compute.

My SO will be coming with me for visits. I'm not sure if she'll want to sit in on classes and tours, but I would like it if she did. She knows me well, and I trust her opinion in helping me figure out where would be a good fit for me. And when it comes time to talk about where we're going to move to, it will help if she has an idea of what I like and don't like about the schools, just like it will help if I have an idea what she does and doesn't like about the cities.

Communication, bro.

I also think this is an age/seriousness of the relationship/distance from current home issue. I would not have asked a semi serious boyfriend in college for a ton of input about a school in our city. But 6/7 years out of UG, married and thinking about places like Vanderbilt coming from So Cal? He's going to get a lot of input on that decision. The more info he has to make it the better so we can make the best decision for us.

[cron1834]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

Checking out the city seems perfectly legit. What I don't understand is why (according to TLS reports) some people are bringing SOs into classrooms, on tours, etc. Um, they're not going to the school? What do they care what Professor Preftige's contracts class is like? Does not compute.

My SO will be coming with me for visits. I'm not sure if she'll want to sit in on classes and tours, but I would like it if she did. She knows me well, and I trust her opinion in helping me figure out where would be a good fit for me. And when it comes time to talk about where we're going to move to, it will help if she has an idea of what I like and don't like about the schools, just like it will help if I have an idea what she does and doesn't like about the cities.

Communication, bro.

I'm not going to belabor this, so this is my final thought - but, if your SO isn't an attorney or law student, why on earth should their "communication" and "likes/dislikes" have a thing to do with what campus and classroom YOU spend your time in? She won't be attending. If you buy a car, presumably she'll get to drive it. If you get a house, presumably she'll live in it. But she's not going to class with you dude! Do you go on job interviews with her, too?

Again, the city of residence thing is legit, I concede that. No dispute there.

[midwest17]

I'm planning on bringing my husband to a few out of state ASWs. As was mentioned, I'm basically asking him to move across country potentially, so he needs to check the cities out. I was only planning on bringing him to the reception type stuff though. Glad this seems acceptable-I was a little worried I'd be the only one who brought someone!

Checking out the city seems perfectly legit. What I don't understand is why (according to TLS reports) some people are bringing SOs into classrooms, on tours, etc. Um, they're not going to the school? What do they care what Professor Preftige's contracts class is like? Does not compute.

My SO will be coming with me for visits. I'm not sure if she'll want to sit in on classes and tours, but I would like it if she did. She knows me well, and I trust her opinion in helping me figure out where would be a good fit for me. And when it comes time to talk about where we're going to move to, it will help if she has an idea of what I like and don't like about the schools, just like it will help if I have an idea what she does and doesn't like about the cities.

Communication, bro.

I'm not going to belabor this, so this is my final thought - but, if your SO isn't an attorney or law student, why on earth should their "communication" and "likes/dislikes" have a thing to do with what campus and classroom YOU spend your time in? She won't be attending. If you buy a car, presumably she'll get to drive it. If you get a house, presumably she'll live in it. But she's not going to class with you dude! Do you go on job interviews with her, too?

Again, the city of residence thing is legit, I concede that. No dispute there.

This is basically non-responsive to everything I said. Let me try this in a simpler way:

1. I trust her opinion about environments and how they will work for me. Visits are a relatively short amount of time to learn about a school's culture, and perceptions can be colored by all sorts of things. A second opinion from someone who knows you well is helpful.

2. The final decision will probably end up being a balancing of various interests. We're not just going to rank our preferences and then apply some algorithm. Communication is easier the more shared information there is. Her being at the visit and actually seeing the culture is more effective than me trying to describe and convey why a certain school's culture would be a good fit.

Your job interview analogy is bad. I hope you didn't mean it as a serious comparison.