ConLaw2017 wrote:This is not my fault. I played the game by the rules and ended up in my lucky position even though, statistically speaking, I should have ended up working a menial job with no education like most of my childhood friends did. Just because your cards were not as good, or your law school is not as good, or your college was not as good, or your opportunities were not as good does not give you permission to come on here and trash me. I had to fight for everything I have now and you and I can fully recognize that we are both where we are by chance - no one disputes this. It is also not my fault or responsibility to assuage other's insecurity or unwillingness to acknowledge race discrimination in our law schools and law firms. You want to know the real reason why these guys reacted so violently to me? I'm a counter-stereotype. For some of you, because of residential segregation, odds are you have never lived in a diverse area much less seen a Latino or African-American who could hold their own in an intellectual tangle - this is probably the first time (and last time) you will have seen or interacted with a nergo with my background. I'm sorry I deleted my prior posts because they are proof of this. Our natural response in this situation is feel under attack and try to restore stasis by getting rid of the disturbance. Fair. The only reason I spoke out was because I wanted career advice and I felt that speaking out was in everyone's interest.
Because let me tell you right know, you all who know me know damn well that there is no way anyone will be able to completely blacklist someone with my background from every U.S. lawfirm, much less the government (I'd imagine they would laugh at you if you tried to tell them who to hire), or academia. But don't complain when these guys treat you like they treated me and you regret that you did not heed my warning. The only reason I was put out so early was because I'm such a counter-stereotype and will be practice ready in such a short amount of time that these guys literally cannot take me. But if you think for one second these partners (or any firm) will care about you when you start becoming a burden in your senior years and eat into their profit margins (and don't look like everyone around you), you are crazy. Good luck.
Is this real life?
From one racial minority to another:
No one here is saying that it's impossible you're facing discrimination. What people are telling you is that very little of what you've offered as proof of discrimination (aside from the "go back to Africa" comment) bolsters your argument, and that you're undermining your own arguments with some of the things you're saying. You are undermining your argument by using what other people at other firms
get paid as proof that you're being undervalued, especially considering you apparently admitted that you are
getting paid just as much as every other intern in your firm/program. You undermine your argument when you refer to working long hours as "slavery" and argue "yeah but no one else has to work this hard, so obviously, slavery." You are undermining your argument by arguing that someone dancing in front of your office is an obvious sign of aggression and by assuming ill intent from an otherwise innocuous song, when there are numerous other interpretations for that behavior and when you're not providing any additional context to explain why anyone should feel the same way you feel about it. You are undermining your argument by not offering anything else to suggest that you are actually being singled out for your race (such as: of the four black kids in the diversity program, all of them work longer hours than the other interns or are somehow being paid less than the other interns in the program; that the racially insensitive comments have come from the dancing partner and are frequently uttered by people in the firm; that you are singled out for mistakes that the same associates/partners have ignored in other non-black interns, etc.). You want people to accept your feelings and intuition at face value, but then consistently do all sorts of things to make us question your feelings and intuition. This is why people are scrutinizing your "message."
As for people stomping on your hopes and dreams when they don't know the full picture, if you're right that people's advice is irrelevant because they're making assumptions that wouldn't make sense if they had the full picture, then why get mad at them for giving advice based on all the information they have? Why assume ill intent from people using the small amount of info you're giving them to give you advice, as if they're all just jealous of your achievements and looking to tear you down? You're getting paranoid because you're so insecure about being who you are and having done what you did that you're seeing an enemy in everyone who doesn't readily agree with you, when some of us are actually trying to help you and trying to explain to you that treating everyone like the enemy is a surefire way to destroy your career before it can fully get off the ground.
You are clearly a smart guy; you have great grades and have been admitted into some very prestigious schools, which is no small task. So you have to be capable of understanding that things are not going to get better for you if you keep insisting that everyone else is the problem (even if you're 100% right that racism is involved in this particular firm). At best, you need to get some help and understand how your behavior attracts poor behavior from others; at worst you need to get some help to understand how your behavior is causing all these negative interactions with others. You have such an inferiority complex, and maybe some other issues, that you're going to destroy everything you worked hard to build up if you don't get this under wraps and stop trying to find the enemy in every setback you experience.